Marriage is Stupid

Celebrity break ups and divorces fascinate me. I don't care about the marriages or the beginning of the relationships. I just like watching them implode. The reason for this is obvious. I like watching rich good looking famous people experience the same misery the rest of us do. It isn't that I don't want them to be happy. I just appreciate the fact that they demonstrate on a regular basis the futility of it all. The bottom line is that marriage is stupid.

I have written on the topic of love before in Love is Bullshit. That is a popular post. The fact that marriage is bullshit is just an extension of that earlier piece. If love is a doomed enterprise from the start, it definitely makes no sense to tie the knot.

I am sure we are all familiar with the stats. Half of all marriages end in divorce. This number may be declining as more people wise up and decide not to marry. The more telling stat is the fact that the vast majority of both men and women report cheating on their spouses leaving the rest to lie about it. I have read that 80% of all marriages are touched by infidelity. This is damning considering that people have overwhelming incentives to lie and delude themselves.

Men have no incentive to marry. There is nothing for them to gain from the arrangement. A man can only lose in the deal unless he is marrying some rich heiress dumb enough to not ask for a prenup. For women, the opposite is true. A man is a virtual slave once he ties the knot. This is why women want rich older successful men to tie the knot with. This is a way for them to acquire money they did not earn.



The older guy might not be able to perform sexually anymore, but this isn't a problem for the woman who is not going to be faithful anyway. Marriage just makes a cuckold and a sucker for any man foolish enough to fall in the trap. Or, he may find himself in a loveless sexless marriage.

The smart man is wise to this trap and stays out of it. He knows marriage is a raw deal. He knows that what women want is security which means money to burn. Women consider sex some atrocity to endure in order to "earn" the money they are going to blow. Don't get me wrong. Women enjoy sex. They just don't enjoy sex with their husbands.

The stupid man falls for the lies, marries, gets cheated on and used, and tossed like a sack of garbage. Or, he is a total cad being married to a woman for social reasons while getting much ass on the side. Either way, marriage is really dumb for either the cuckold or the womanizer.

For the smart man, the problem comes when he dates some woman who starts putting the pressure on him to marry. When this happens, he needs to move on. This is the end of the relationship because the woman has revealed her true desire--your money. Suggest to her that you have nothing to gain from marriage and that she should earn her own money as befitting a liberated modern woman. Watch that smile turn upside down. Then, she will lay the guilt trip on you about you not loving her. Agree with her. You don't love her. She doesn't love you either.



The simple fact is that humans are not monogamous and love is a lie to make us reproduce. Marriage only brings money, property, and the custody of children into this septic tank of stupidity. Divorce is rampant, heartbreaking, and expensive. Yet, as the joke goes, divorce is expensive because it is worth it. Generally speaking, women profit from the marriage, but men profit from the divorce. Men will go on, and their lives will improve. The women's lives tend to stagnate unless they can find some other sucker to take them.

Society has certain expectations that we all marry, but society is wrong. Being single means being free. It means owning your own property and not sharing it. It means making your own decisions and doing whatever the fuck you like. But the best thing about being single is that you can dump your lover at the drop of a hat, and you will. Relationships are temporary. Marriage is like trying to turn a disposable razor into an heirloom with the results you would expect from such a foolish endeavor.

Love is one big colossal cruel fucking joke. When you are unattached, you can at least walk away from the joke. When you are married, you are trapped. That is the point. This is why women like marriage. It delivers what they really want which is not love but security. Marriage is an attempt to make permanent an arrangement that cannot last. The only thing that becomes permanent is misery.

I know few happily married couples. Those few happy couples are the bait for the trap in much the same way that a few lottery winners inspire the rest of the people to play a losing game. Deciding not to marry is not going to keep you from finding this wonderful person that might truly make you happy. What will keep you from finding this right person is being married to the wrong person for a decade or more. So, you are always better off remaining single because it keeps you out of a bad situation but also leaves you more open to a good situation.

For the women reading this, it may piss you off to no end, but do I lie? Are women anything other than gold digging sluts? I'd sure like to meet one that wasn't. But so far, I've never met a chick that wasn't after the money. When I realize that a woman is more interested in what I can do for her than what I am as a person, her ass is gone.

Never getting married is one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. I am much better off, and I have zero regrets on remaining a bachelor. As for loneliness, the world abounds with whores. This includes the married ones who cheat. Love is dubious, but lust is constant. You can always count on lust.

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