Q & A

Q: Does talking about your problems help?



A: No.



That was the short answer. Here is the long answer. Imagine you have a couple. They love each other, but they fight a lot. Will talking settle things? Nope. As someone who has been in many of these "talks," they have never been productive. I cannot recall a time when I or anyone else was able to make things better after one of these talks.



This question comes up as a result of this article that says that males tend to not want to talk about problems while females do. This produced much derision and laughter on Facebook when I shared it. People were flabbergasted that researchers wasted time, effort, and money on such stupidity. But it did spark some debate.



When it comes to people problems, talking doesn't change anything. This is because people can only change themselves. They can't change other people. Women love to talk, but this is because it reinforces their inherent tendency to be shitheads. Men placate women long enough to get them to shut up. Then, they keep on doing exactly what they want to do. Promises to change be damned. At some point, the woman wakes up to reality, and the relationship ends. For the men, the relationship ends as soon as the trouble starts. This is because they know better.



People don't listen. This is true for both men and women. Talking to someone who doesn't listen is a waste of time. So, I choose not to waste my time. You should, too.

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